Hey sis,

I am still unpacking.

Literally and figuratively. 😂

I spent 20 days of September away from home, and while I’m still floating somewhere between Bali and Awakened, real life was waiting for me when I got back.

Laundry. No groceries. Work. A calendar that did not care about my newfound Zen. 😂

And I’ve noticed myself trying to get everything back under control.

But maybe that’s not actually what I need.

​🎙️ A Note from Nikia on Being in Charge (click here to listen)​

One of the things I’m trying to bring home with me is this:

You don’t need to be in control to be in charge.

Today’s Takeaway

We spend a lot of energy trying to create certainty around things we were never actually capable of controlling.

Other people.

Schedules.

Plans.

Outcomes.

Being in charge is about agency.
Being in control is about certainty.

You may not get to choose what happens next.

But you still get to choose how you respond, what gets your attention, what you say yes or no to, and how you move through it.

Maybe peace doesn’t require certainty.

Maybe it requires trusting yourself.

This Week’s Reflection

What’s causing you the most stress in your life right now?

Now ask yourself:

Am I actually in control of the outcome?

And if the answer is no:

What would it feel like to stop trying to guarantee the outcome and focus instead on what you’re actually in charge of?

Maybe there’s something you can relinquish today.

Not because you don’t care.

Not because it doesn’t matter.

But because it was never yours to control in the first place.

You don’t need to be in control to be in charge.

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Chat soon,
Nikia