Hey Sis,

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I’ve been thinking about Giving Tuesday all day.

This morning, it was the usual thought: Okay, who am I donating to this year?

There are so many amazing orgs doing real work in the world, and honestly, I’d love to find some new ones.

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So first, I’m genuinely curious:

👉🏾 What charity, org, or cause do you LOVE supporting?

Reply and tell me. I’m always looking for new places to pour into.

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But as the day went on, another thought hit me…

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We talk so much about giving outward—money, time, energy.

But almost none of us talk about what we could give up that would actually set us free.

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And that’s when it hit me:

This Giving Tuesday, I’m not just giving money.

I’m giving up caring about what other people think.

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Because if I’m being honest?

Most of the time, I’m not actually afraid of failing.

I’m afraid of the commentary.

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The side-eye.

The, “Oh, she really thought she could do that?”

The silent judgment from people who are watching from the sidelines, not the ones actually in the arena with me.

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But like Brené Brown says, unless you’re in the arena getting your ass kicked too? Your feedback does not carry weight here.

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And when I really sat with it, I had to admit something…

Most of the things I call “fear” aren’t about the actual thing going wrong.

They’re about the story I think people will tell about me if it does.

They’re predictions of what someone might say, might think, might judge.

Meanwhile, nobody has actually said a word.

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So today, in honor of Giving Tuesday, I’m doing both:

• I’m giving to causes that matter… and
• I’m giving up a fear that’s been weighing on me for years.

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Your turn, Sis:

What’s one fear you’re willing to give up today?

Maybe it’s fear of being judged.

Maybe it’s fear of disappointing people.

Maybe it’s fear of starting over, changing your mind, or wanting more.

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Hit reply and tell me:

1. The charity or cause you love to support
2. One fear you’re ready to start releasing this season

I’d love to celebrate where you’re giving… and hold space for what you’re finally putting down.

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With love,

Nikia