Hey Sis,
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As I sat down to write this email, I realized something.

It’s June.

Somehow we’re already halfway through the year.

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And if I’m honest, I’ve spent a lot of this year telling myself the same thing I’ve been telling myself for years:

Things will calm down soon.

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After this trip.

After this project.

After this busy season.

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Then I’ll rest.

Then I’ll take better care of myself.

Then I’ll finally slow down.

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The problem?

Life rarely seems to calm down.

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There’s always another responsibility.
Another deadline.
Another family obligation.
Another goal.
Another reason to wait.

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Maybe you’ve said some version of this too:

I’ll rest when all the chores are done.

I’ll ask for help when I absolutely have to.

I’ll take a day off when it feels justified.

I’ll finally prioritize myself when work settles down.

I’ll finally be happy when…

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The longer I thought about it, the more I realized I’ve spent years postponing parts of my life while waiting for things to settle down.

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Lately I’ve been thinking about something called the messy middle.
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The messy middle is the space between deciding what you want and actually having it.

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It’s where most of us spend the majority of our lives.

It’s where you know you want something different, but you haven’t arrived there yet.

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It’s where you’re working toward better health, but you aren’t seeing the results yet.

It’s where you’re building the business, healing the relationship, setting the boundaries, recovering from burnout, learning to rest, or redefining success.

And nobody really prepares us for this part.

We’re taught how to set goals.

We’re taught how to work hard.

We’re taught how to be disciplined.B
​ut we’re not taught how to navigate uncertainty.​
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Because the truth is, when you decide you want something—a healthier body, a stronger relationship, a new career, more peace, more joy—you don’t know exactly how long it will take.

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You don’t know what obstacles you’ll face.

You don’t know how many times you’ll question yourself along the way.

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And that uncertainty can feel so uncomfortable that many people stop moving altogether.

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Not because they don’t want the goal. Because they want certainty.

But growth rarely comes with certainty. It comes with trust.

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Trust that the work matters even when you can’t see the outcome yet.

Trust that progress is happening even when it feels slow.

Trust that you don’t need all the answers before taking the next step.

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Maybe the goal isn’t learning how to avoid the messy middle.

Maybe the goal is learning how to live there.

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To keep showing up.

To keep caring for yourself.

To keep reclaiming yourself.

Even before you’ve arrived.

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So I’ll leave you with this question:

What have you been postponing until things calm down?

And what would change if you stopped waiting?
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Reply and let me know. I’d love to hear from you.

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With love,

Nikia